I want to build a mod club where all you play is 60’s rock and beat music and dance like you are having multiple epileptic seizures and only those who look like they’ve time traveled from the 60’s may enter the club, all others are not allowed and everyone shows up on a moped
Do friends ever want to be more than friends just because you're kind to them?
This is a tricky one for me because what I’m going to say probably isn’t going to sound "kind" lol. I don’t know how else to describe it because it is something I have always struggled with.
But YES!. EVERY single male friend (and I literally mean EVERY single male friend)I have ever had or met has had a romantic interest in me. Also guys that I JUST met will also show romantic interest moments after just meeting me. Asking me out on a date, relationship etc.
Plus I am very oblivious with the added bonus of being aromantic (a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others.) so I usually don’t pick up on these clues until it is explicitly stated to me.
Me being nice isn’t flirting. I am just genuinely kind, conciderate to everyone, especially my friends! I have endless platonic love for everyone! lol it’s just my nature.
Which is why sometimes now I am awkward around my guy friends because I think I am having a great platonic friendship and then they drop this bomb on me almost every time in the past. I am very cautious & act weird now which is TERRIBLE. I avoid hanging out with my guy friends alone in fear that they are trying to romantically get with me. When I go out I only go out with a big group of friends to shield me from advances. It’s like a paranoia which isn’t healthy. It’s because I have had terrible & sometimes tramautizing experiences in regards to this. I have lost some guy friends to this delimia. Once they couldn’t get any romantic interest in return they would not be my friend anymore or it ruined the friendship afterwards. That would hurt me more than anything. They would even completely disregard my romantic orientation by saying “I need to try it” or “you just haven’t found the right guy”. Yes I know my romantic orientation (or lack of one) in being aromantic isn’t well known but it is as legit and real as every other sexual/romantic orientation. I can’t change.
I don’t mind if people do have romantic interest in me, because although I haven’t experienced it myself I understand that it is something you cannot control, just like I cannot control not feeling romantic feelings. In fact I’d rather them feel comfortable enough to tell me, just respect my aromantic orientation and we can still be friends.
I am sure it is awkward for everyone if this has ever happened but also being aromantic it is completely confusing & sometimes fustrating. I don’t know how to handle it without coming off as mean, selfish or uncaring.
I guess it is just the struggle of being an aromantic in a amatonormativity society. sigh.
If I ever get a girlfriend. I hope she's as cool as you.
wow I am very flattered! thank you lol :)
But if I am going to be competely honest I don’t think you would truly want an aromantic “girlfriend” lol that would not be a good or healthy combination xD. I hope that you never develop romantic feelings for an aromantic because that would end in tragedy for both parties. I wish you well & luck with someone who shares your romantic orientation/interests! lol.
but if you mean my personality is cool and you would want a romantic relationship with someone as ‘cool as me’ then I am beyond flattered. again thanks!
I really appreciate the sentiment, even if I don’t personally experience the concepts of romantic feelings/relationships lol I am touched :)
a-r-t-i-s-t said: I’ve been looking for it, but I did not see it from you, it may have been on YouTube, but I almost want to say Rolling Stone commented about, those are the two places I’m frequently visiting. You ARE internet famous! : )
OMG really?! lol :D
Well the video isn’t mine. and I just gif-ed from that video so I can’t take too much credit if it did. Which part went viral? my actual concert review, the gif or the video?
a-r-t-i-s-t said: OMG!!!! I saw that somewhere else, this actually went viral I think!
…I think It was me reposting & reblogging all about it forever on my blog not really actually going viral lol If anything I think I made it viral myself and spammed the morrissey tag haha I am sorry everyone xD I was just so happy I’m still fangirling about it to this day. oopsie…
I got ridiculously lucky & saw him live at Mahaffey Theater this year in st. pete FL May 30! like 5 days before he cancelled the tour. It was my FIRST Morrissey show too! :D
I got up front row, put my hand out & as he came over (while singing “Hand in Glove” no less) and he made a mini performance of singing "So stay on my arm you little charmer" while looking straight at me and reaching out and holding my hand for a few moments. lol *dead* ❤
I have only found one “ok-ish” quality video on youtube so far from it. you can’t see it the whole time so it looks shorter because there are heads in the way but this video starting at 2:53 you can see him hold my hand for a brief moment Here
a-r-t-i-s-t answered: They’re German wearing Scottish Kilts because they liked the way they looked!
It’s one of the worst cases of cultural appropriation in history. They made up & changed their REAL German last name "Saxe-Coburg and Gotha" to "Windsor" to *sound* more "English". Because you know, WWI WWII, having a German last name wasn’t so popular.
&& They wear Scottish clan kilts on top of everything else? Those date back to the Celts and Britons tradition thousands of years ago and their ancient names, clans, color & patterns. & Then they are paradying around in it.. sigh.
My dad told me that when "God Save the Queen" by The Sex Pistols first came out the music charts in the UK would not PRINT the name of the song, it would literally just be a BLANK SPACE?!?
…no not 1870s… 1970s…less than 40 years ago they wouldn’t even PRINT “god save the queen” on the billboards charts. there was a blank fucking space.
Like how does a billionaire family that isn’t even English (they are german) that wasn’t even voted in, has absolutely no role in the republic parliamentary government system get to make decisions like this or that people were being censored if they so much as had a different opinion?! in art & music none the less wtf. There isn’t even any profainity or anything in the title. England the country & government are completely seperate entities from this “billionaire family” They are not tied or one thing!
That is some punk rock genius, now I really appreciate the Sex Pistols just for that. Thank you pistols for being one of the first to call out bullshit lol
This is the EXACT reason why they are making a song like that in the first place - by censoring it you proved them RIGHT! lol
I can’t believe it! but now I actually appreciate the pistols for that lol …even if they did it wearing designer vivinne westwood expensive clothes from the west end with malcolm mclaren orchestrating everything
I am not sure what context you mean “relationship” but either way I can only give my own bias first person point of view so I will never really know what it is like to be the “other” person in a “relationship” with me lol.
First of all if you meant a *romantic* relationship then it would be completely non existant lol.I am Aromantic which is “An aromantic is a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others”. I have absolutely NO desire for romance, dating, romantic relationships and I never have. It is completely apart of my being. It is like any other orientation. I never dreamed of happily ever after. Like happiness was only found with another person instead of within. Or even inside a ring. The idea baffles me. Eludes me.
Also as a bonus I am also not interested in marriage or children at all ever. Unlike alot of aros I don’t really have “squishes” either - I just want to be single the rest of my life basically, no partners or anything - just my friends and family. I can’t imagine myself any other way. I feel already fulfilled by my platonic support of family and friends, and the idea of a romantic relationship seems to not only disagreeable but intrusive on my platonic support system as well as my independent self identity.. I don’t need or want it.
This doesn’t mean I can’t *love* it is just a different kind of love. There is SO many different kinds and depths of love.
This does NOT mean I’m asexual though, I am a straight cis female and I am definitely sexually attracted to men lol.
But I haven’t really openly come out yet since discovering this aspect of myself. I was always disturbed/felt clausophobic by the idea of romance. I even tried going on dates, etc and was always left wondering what I was missing or what everyone else was talking about. I found men sexually attractive, and even platonically attractive and when these things combined, I thought I had a crush, but whenever the people I “liked” or was “attracted’ to even mentioned the word love or to be in a relationship with me, my fight or flight instinct would kick in.
Basically if anyone has ever attempted a romantic relationship with me it has never occured or I have completely been a unfair to them for turning down, leading on or fwbing people because I didn’t know and understand my orientation and I was taking it out on them so I’m sure it was greatly confusing for them as well as me. So I’m assuming it was not very good lol.
Now if you mean *Friendship wise* I would say essentially I am a pretty great friend. Most of the friends and acquaintances I have I have had for decades or years and never have fought. I hate conflict and will go all lengths to avoid it. People say I am very easy to get along with, I put people at ease, fun/silly and I try to be kind always. I make new friends very easily and have a very wide spectrum of acquantices and friends. I don’t have a single “group” I jump from person to person and invite everyone I know. The more the merrier is my motto. I do have a few select best close friends though.
My love for my friends is immense. Especially being a aromantic my platonic support system is my entire spectrum of relationships lol.
I definitely have my weaknesses. I am very very introverted so I can only have short burts of social interaction when I do have social interaction with friends. Usually once, twice or (maybe thrice if I’m feeling outgoing) a week of socializing is perfect for me, but that has caused problems in the past when I have had extraverted friends who want to hang out every single day and take this as a personal affront. I physically can’t live up to that expectation. I will do my best and hang out as much as I can but I also need time to recharge I also have terrible communication skills. Sometimes you might not hear from me or see me for days, weeks, months and in some cases years. I always forget to text, call, email back. It is not lack of caring, its just the way I am and I am trying to work on it lol.
The few times things have gone bad in my friendships and have lost friends especially recently it is absolutely devastating to me and I have the most trouble leaving bad friendships. It haunts me for years and I don’t know if I ever truly recover from it. It is something I struggle with even now after everyone has moved on.
If it helps at all with understanding what a relationship of any type would be with me I am a INFP personality type- you can read more here (x) (x)
PS I am also an Aries lol
"the INFP internally feels his or her life intensely. In the relationship arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types.
INFPs are warm and caring individuals who highly value authenticity and depth in their personal relationships. They are usually quite perceptive about other people’s feelings and motives, and are consequently able to get along with all sorts of different people. However, the INFP will keep their true selves reserved from others except for a select few, with whom they will form close and lasting friendships. With their high ideals, they are likely to be drawn to other iNtuitive Feelers for their closer friendships.
With their strong need for harmony and dislike of conflict, INFPs may feel threatened by people with strong Judging and Thinking preferences. Although they’re likely to be able to work well professionally with such individuals, they may have difficulty accepting or appreciating them on a personal level. They generally feel a kinship and affinity with other Feeling types.
INFPs will be valued by their confidantes as genuine, altruistic, deep, caring, original individuals.”